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What ableist views do people have about you?
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Not your fault. But failing to deal with it is.
Your actions affect others. If you're being a slob, that's your responsibility.
If you're walking too slowly, that's your responsibility. I don't care that you have a wooden leg.
IKR, fuck those people with disabilities for inconveniencing you.
How dare they use a physical impairment as an excuse to not do things to your satisfaction.
Selfish Is what they are.
in case it wasnt abundantly clear, that was sarcasm.
Ah yes, society is for tormenting less fortunate people with passive-aggressive rules.
Although I don't expect you're intending to carry on ableist rhetoric, the implication that someone with ADHD is a "slob" implies a misunderstanding of why we do what we do. What someone else might call "disorganized" could actually be organized in a way that facilitates our daily lives. Sure, I could keep my medicines in a cabinet, but when I see them on my nightstand I am far more likely to remember to take them. Sure, I could put away all my art supplies when I take a break from a project for the day, but then I'll lose track of what I was working on. Every time I "tidy up" I end up spending a significant amount of time trying to get back into my normal rhythm afterwards.
People will use words like "slob" even though there's no trash lying around, I keep the floor swept, I wash my dishes immediately, etc., all because surfaces are covered in items that I actually use. My private space is for living in, and it reflects that. If someone else doesn't like it, well, that sucks for them, but to imply that we're "slobs" for finding ways to make our daily lives run smoothly is an unfair characterization.
Thanks mate, I'll just try harder and buy a day planner.
And what business is it of yours what state my desk, my room, or my home is in? How are you actually affected?
You're not. Fuck off.
Failing to do your best to deal with it.
A small difference, but important.
Exactly this.
My father was (is?) bipolar. He was fine when he was on his meds, but decided to stop taking them and became a monster. Lost his job, wife, eventually my sisters and I went no contact for our own safety.
This is an autism community, not an ADHD community. I'm autistic, not ADHD. But i am aware that I need to put energy into communicating with people I want or need relationships with. Everyone is different, and every relationship needs compromise to be successful. To simply say "I have ADHD so you have to deal with it or get out of my life" well... Bye then.