Yeah, those 4 days just flew by...

Sorry to hear about your Dad. My Mum's slowing down now and I'm fearing the day that her money dries up and I'll have to bring her in to live with us... she's lovely, but it's the loss of independance (for all concerned).

But, I saw a yoochoob recently which reminded me that sometimes we need to do the right things, which might not be the nice things, so I hope the ultimatum works for your Dad