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ADHD is not a reason not to put in effort. I have ADHD and I put in so fucking much effort all the time, just to do normal stuff. No one let's us off the hook for shit just because we have ADHD. The best we get are meds that aren't addictive to us and help a lot, but we're treated like drug addicts or dealers for wanting, and have barriers put in the way of getting them that only really hurt people with ADHD. There's no real benefit to being diagnosed incorrectly, so this take just pisses me off and looks like more ignorant pearl clutching.
This. It's always been tons of effort for me, just with little results, at least when I finally broke down and first got my depression diagnosis, then went to seek more answers.
With medication and a lot of therapy, it's now more results and paradoxically less effort as I now try to pace myself instead of putting all of my resources out there all the time.
the idea that someone needs an excuse to not put in effort is funny
If people feel the need to do this to get special treatment or to put in "less effort," as you put it, then that's a symptom of a larger issue and a failing system that's forcing people to resort to this kind of thing. Either way, it's never harmful to have more accessibility for more people, even if they're not supposedly disabled.
I feel this era is already here. It's a fight between people who are weird, weirder, and weirdest, trying to prove who has the most problems and why they believe they have this and that medical condition, and that people need to try harder to "understand" them.
Maybe I have ADHD? Maybe I have autism? I've never been diagnosed, and with the state of the medical system in the US I don't think I WANT to get diagnosed due to the quality of doctors I've been seeing my whole life for chronic pain, and from the stories I hear from people who actually are on a "self discovery" journey.
If someone has ADHD, that's fine. Maybe ask your personal doctor for a letter or something to show your employers. But going around telling everyone you have ADHD and making memes about "ADHD" and saying stuff like "haha this is such an ADHD thing" is not helping anyone's case. The "normal" people (if they exist), will take you more seriously if you are more serious about a serious condition.
Those exact things you said aren't helping anyone are exactly what lead me to introspect, ask my psychiatrist about it and eventually get an official diagnosis. I'm certain there's a significant number of people who, just like me, would continue believing they are just a lazy failure of a person who is beyond help if not for finding others who experience similar things and convey it through lighthearted humor.