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I'm sure lots of ADHDers know what I mean. Situations where you're not meaning ill intent, but the way that a situation turns out makes it seem like you're the bad guy/girl.

How do you handle the situation without seeming like a victim or that you're making excuses for yourself? Do you explain the situation or just accept it and hope that enough time will reveal your true character?

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[–] orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts 5 points 1 year ago

I talk less. I find that people like to talk over me constantly and interrupt, so I generally let them run with the rope until it hangs them. If I can get a word in edgewise, I'll give my 2 cents, but the quality of my answer if they're incapable of listening, is far less engaged than if the opposite were true. When that's the case, my responses are matter-of-fact and stripped to the barebones due to lack of interest, and trying to get my core points across.

I find that I write far better than I speak and as I get older, I care less and less about how someone perceives me, which has been a bit freeing.