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It goes both ways. I am frustrated and exhausted and depressed by folks who never want to try anything new or change, who never want to get out of their comfort zone. It feels like dragging around dead weight and sucks the joy out of life.
Why do you feel its your job to drag them out of their comfort zones? Why do you feel the need to change people and force them to do what they dont want to do?
It doesn't go both ways, you can just walk away and stop bothering them. If you keep pestering them, they are just gonna get fed up with you and break contact. If they are people you want to keep as your friends, find some other friends who are on your energy and interest levels and use your extra energy with them and use your chilling and relaxing days with the people who are comfortable sitting at the comfort of their homes.
It's not. I never said any of that.
I just don't interact with them once they show me that is who they are. It's just annoying that so many people are like that esp as I get older. It's killing my social life because I don't want to sit around on my ass and do the same stuff over and over, I want to go places and do things.
I dont' meet anyone who is of my energy level of interest level. So I am forced to lower mine to interact with people, or pretend that I like drinking Miller beer and bitching about change.