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Most people in open relationships will get jealous and resentful (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago by TractorDuffy@lemmy.world to c/unpopularopinion@lemmy.world

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Every person I've ever met who participated in an "open relationship" became the target of profound jealousy, or became jealous themselves.

I think it sounds appealing; 🌈my partner and I love each other but our hearts are too big to only enjoy one person's company🌈 then their partner sleeps with someone else and they get all shitty and bitter.

My experience has always been "Are you sure your partner is ok with this?" --> "Yes definitely" --> The partner becomes a shitty rage machine. I had a guy corner me at dinner with my friends and yell in public because he was so jealous. He agreed to the open relationship. He was a hypocrite. All three of us suffered because he couldn't handle it. He should not have been in an open relationship.

That was the worst one but I think it applies to most people. It's a pipe dream that they don't have the emotional maturity to actualize.

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[–] 0li0li@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Yep, I caused jealousy in a dude because his gf gave me her phone number at a party. They were in an open relationship and I saw them both kissing other people all night. I was not interested but she showed interest in me so I played nice and took the number down. Her bf saw and gave me shit as soon as we met outside the house party.

I have another somewhat story about a girl that told me it's totally ok with her bf if we spent the night, that they were in an open relationshio, but the more I scratched the surface, the more I got from her, to the point she told me "yeah, he doesn't like it, at all, but he loves me... but really hates it".