Unpopular Opinion
Welcome to the Unpopular Opinion community!
How voting works:
Vote the opposite of the norm.
If you agree that the opinion is unpopular give it an arrow up. If it's something that's widely accepted, give it an arrow down.
Guidelines:
Tag your post, if possible (not required)
- If your post is a "General" unpopular opinion, start the subject with [GENERAL].
- If it is a Lemmy-specific unpopular opinion, start it with [LEMMY].
Rules:
1. NO POLITICS
Politics is everywhere. Let's make this about [general] and [lemmy] - specific topics, and keep politics out of it.
2. Be civil.
Disagreements happen, but that doesnโt provide the right to personally attack others. No racism/sexism/bigotry. Please also refrain from gatekeeping others' opinions.
3. No bots, spam or self-promotion.
Only approved bots, which follow the guidelines for bots set by the instance, are allowed.
4. Shitposts and memes are allowed but...
Only until they prove to be a problem. They can and will be removed at moderator discretion.
5. No trolling.
This shouldn't need an explanation. If your post or comment is made just to get a rise with no real value, it will be removed. You do this too often, you will get a vacation to touch grass, away from this community for 1 or more days. Repeat offenses will result in a perma-ban.
6. Defend your opinion
This is a bit of a mix of rules 4 and 5 to help foster higher quality posts. You are expected to defend your unpopular opinion in the post body. We don't expect a whole manifesto (please, no manifestos), but you should at least provide some details as to why you hold the position you do.
Instance-wide rules always apply. https://legal.lemmy.world/tos/
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Open Relationships/Polyamory can work. I know, I've done then.
They take effort, and communication, and boundaries, and respect.. and most importantly of all, emotional maturity..Its something you generally have to have mutually in mind from the very beginning of the relationship.
Most of the time when they crash and burn in catastrophe, is when a monogamous relationship tries to go Open/Poly.. because, at least in my experience, Mono trying to go Open/Poly is almost always because one partner pushes for it, because that one partner has found someone they're gonna fuck/try desperately to fuck regardless, but they at least want to try and engineer permission for it (either before or after the fact). and that shits always doomed to failure.
Not to say a Mono can't successfully convert to Open/Poly, or that there arent Open/Poly that fail even if its Open/poly from the start.. Theres always gonna be exceptions and outliers.
But the biggest factor in the success/failure of any relationship, whether it be Mono, Poly, or Open.. is mutual respect, open communication, healthy and respected boundaries, and effort.