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I still have my penis and intend to keep it. I enjoy the lead up and topping, but I find that I still get a lot of dysphoria as I get closer to climaxing. It makes it essentially impossible for me to orgasm while topping, to say nothing of how uncomfortable the dysphoria is.

Does anyone have any advice on how I could make myself feel more feminine in those moments? I haven't really tried wearing anything since I prefer to just be naked, but I guess I could try that. I guess I'm more looking for advice on how to feel like a woman topping instead of feeling like a man topping.

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[–] zelahdieliekeis@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

You could wear a strap on?

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago (2 children)

ive considered that but i dont think it would help with the orgasm situation, and i kinda want to use the built in one. it might be interesting to wear just the strap by itself though...

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Um I don't wanna be "that girl" but if your partner has two holes there's no reason you couldn't use a strap on and your penis.

Hope you figure out something that works for you!