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I was thinking about that when I was dropping my 6 year old off at some hobbies earlier - it's pretty much expected to have learned how to ride a bicycle before starting school, and it massively expands the area you can go to by yourself. When she went to school by bicycle she can easily make a detour via a shop to spend some pocket money before coming home, while by foot that'd be rather time consuming.

Quite a lot of friends from outside of Europe either can't ride a bicycle, or were learning it as adult after moving here, though.

edit: the high number of replies mentioning "swimming" made me realize that I had that filed as a basic skill pretty much everybody has - probably due to swimming lessons being a mandatory part of school education here.

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[–] grabyourmotherskeys@lemmy.world 140 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Winter driving and shoulder season driving. Snow, ice, black ice, freezing rain, slush, hydroplaning, driveway clearing, walkway maintenance, windshield scraping, and keeping an emergency kit for breakdowns. Stuff like that.

[–] tortoise@tortoisewrath.com 64 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Or driving in general. As an American who didn't get a driver's license until I was 21 (gasp! so old) due to some reasons, I can attest that many, many people here simply can't comprehend the idea of someone over 17 or so not having one. I got turned away from a hotel once because they didn't know how to use a passport as an ID.

The only other people I've met with this problem were immigrants. And we were always able to bond over lamentations of how difficult it is to solve this problem... the entire system to get a license here is built around the assumption that everyone does it in high school, so every step of the way is some roadblock like "simply drive to your driving test appointment"...

[–] aard@kyu.de 20 points 1 year ago (2 children)

As an American who didn't get a driver's license until I was 21 (gasp! so old)

I'm now 41, never made a license - there wasn't really much of a need until now. I can get anywhere I want with a combination of bicycle and public transport.

[–] folkrav@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Guessing you live in or close-ish some kind of urban center? I got my license at 18 cause the closest bus stop from my parents' place was a 30 minute walk from the closest bus stop, getting literally anywhere useful was at the very minimum another 30 minutes on top of this, and getting downtown was another 45-50 minutes of bus+metro over those last two stretches, assuming no traffic. I currently live 60km outside of town, it's the exact same story. 20 minute walk to the bus, 30 minute bus ride to the train station, and 45 minutes of train to get downtown. North America was built for cars, for better or (especially) for worse, our public transit infrastructure is terrible, things are so far from each other, nothing was built for it...

When I moved out of my parents' place and got an apartment in the city with my wife though, we managed without a car. Bus/metro/walking got us everywhere we needed for every day life, and we used car sharing services when we needed to go out of town. I wouldn't mind going back to this, but living in town would be literally twice as expensive, and we're deeply priced out of that area if we ever want to buy, despite me making a solid 6 figures lol

[–] dirkgentle@lemmy.ca 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

North America was built by the train, it was later destroyed for the car.

[–] folkrav@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago
[–] aard@kyu.de 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Currently in Finland - single family home in a town with 46k people. Originally from a 2k village in Germany.

We have two daycares, a school and a grocery store 1km from home - here that kind of stuff is integrated in the neighbourhoods where people live. Many elementary schools, some just grades 1 and 2 - by grade 3 they can already easily travel the longer distance to another school by themselves.

[–] folkrav@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Sigh. My town is even larger and more populous than yours... Really discouraging. Jobs in my field (programming) are mostly around town, and it's too expensive for me to buy there, so unless I manage to keep working remote indefinitely, I'll never be able to buy lol

[–] Illegal_Prime@dmv.social 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You’d be surprised how for you can stretch ANY transit infrastructure. I despise the resignation that North America was “built for cars” you’ll find people-centric places all over the country, both in cities and rural areas too. The biggest issue is that a lot of rural areas lack transit service, but fixing that would be relatively inexpensive. Unfortunate anywhere without transit is inaccessible to disabled people such as myself who are incapable of operating their own vehicle, so this is something we need to work on.

Most places were built for people, not cars. But many weee, and even more were demolished for them. But saying that North American cities were designed for cars ignores much of the history of North American urban development.

Either way, if a place isn’t transit accessible, it might as well not exist. Though I must stress that it is NOT difficult to make something transit accessible.

[–] folkrav@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

IMHO that's kind of a simplistic view. Let's take my town for example. Going down to Montreal on a bus takes 1h45 alone, so that's not remotely an option. So next best option is bus + train, but closest train station is a 20-25min bus drive. So unless they manage to rezone and displace a bunch of people to lay another handful of kilometers of tracks through agricultural and residential land, new trains in my area won't happen, therefore my best option will always remain bus+train. And it's far anyway.

All decent transit around here covers areas I'll never be able to afford to buy in. Or I could rent forever, I guess. Point is, everything is so freaking far apart around here that land based transit just doesn't cut it. It takes way too long to get anywhere to get a viable option for anything but short distances. I used to live on one end of Montreal's island... It took me 1h30 to get downtown by public transit. 3h+ a day sitting my ass on a bus/train/metro. That's not acceptable. And I lived inside the city. Half the province lives in that Greater Montreal area, and transit doesn't even cover it all properly. I had similar experiences in Quebec City, Gatineau/Ottawa and Toronto too.

It's not resignation, it's realism. By your own definition, 95% of North America basically doesn't exist for you lol. If I wait for transit to become acceptable, I'll be 50 by the time I do anything with my life. And I'll be honest, I have a lot of trouble agreeing with the take that much of NA was built for people, when I see the amount of highway it takes to get from one city to another, or the amount of towns built around a large "stroad". Intra-city transit might be fine in some areas, you seem to say it is, but it is not enough, with large North American cities getting way too expensive to live in for many.

[–] Agent_of_Kayos@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Which is also better for the environment and a perfectly fine way to live. I think more people should be like that

[–] floofloof@lemmy.ca 9 points 1 year ago

I moved to the USA and then Canada as an adult. I had never needed to learn to drive in my home country because there were decent buses and trains. But you really can't function easily in North America without driving a car, so I had to learn and start polluting like everyone else. It's not a good setup.

[–] Fosheze@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This right here is a big one. I live in a college town in Minnesota and the students from out of state are absolute mennaces on the road in winter. My dad used to plow snow for one of the local universities. He had multiple students drive directly head on into his plow because they never cleared off any of their windshield before they started driving down the road. Luckily the snow plow tends to handily win in those situations and the plow trucks all had dash cams for exactly that reason.

You also get the people who think they're invincible in the snow because they're driving a 4 wheel drive truck. Newsflash, 4 wheel drive doesn't mean you stop any better and it doesn't do much when you're on glare ice.

Similarly people who haven't dealt with snow have no idea what to do when they do start sliding. So many people will just hit the brakes when they start to slide, which anyone who is familiar with winter driving should know that is the exact thing you never want to do.

Snow tires are another big one. I drive a tiny crappy rear wheel drive pickup but as long as I have a good set of snow tires on it and a few sand bags in the bed of the truck, then it still out performs any other vehicle with all weather tires in the snow.

[–] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

I live in a ski town that caters to the Los Angeles crowd, and I feel you on all that. 4 wheel drive does not mean 4 wheel stop lol. We are lucky in that we don't get that permafrost y'all get up north, usually the roads dry out a few days after a snow storm so snow tires aren't mandatory up here. But the number of overconfident goofballs in the winter is way too high.

The big one I can think of are snow rated tires, most people have plain old radials that don't do squat in snow. And then you have people that don't know which axle is their drive axle and that's always fun to watch. Thankfully I have a two door wrangler with all terrains that is a breeze to drive in snow, very rarely do I have to chain up.

[–] treadful@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What's shoulder season driving?

[–] grabyourmotherskeys@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So it will snow at night but warm up during the day so you're dealing with icy conditions that have a layer of melt water on them. Or freezing rain that flash freezes at dusk to black ice. And so on.

[–] GingerPale@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

And for people who don’t know, black ice isn’t actually black (unless is filthy with dirt). It’s ice clear enough that the black asphalt underneath shows through very clearly. This make it so you’re on ice and don’t know it because it just looks like regular road.

[–] TehWorld@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Fairly certain the shoulder here is referring to the season. The in-between fall and winter and winter to spring.

[–] Naja_Kaouthia@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Was a bit of a learning curve for me, having moved from subtropical Florida to Colorado the land of eternal winter. I bought a Subaru.

[–] grabyourmotherskeys@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I had an Uber driver in Florida last time I was there (business) and when he found out I was from Canada he told me he went to Boulder in the winter for a vacation and thought it would be cool to rent a car and drive up a mountain. Yeah, he was pretty freaked out by that driving experience. :)

Good call on the Subaru. My wife had a couple and they were great in the snow. First car we ever had with heated seats, too!

[–] Naja_Kaouthia@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

When I first moved here I thought to myself,”Damn there are a lot of Subarus here.”. The reason became abundantly clear during my first winter here lol.

[–] PopShark@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I used to (sometimes skipping class) drive in the mountains almost every day when I was living in Boulder attending CU. I loved it and miss it dearly.

I've never been there but I lived in Banff, Alberta for a while when I was 19 (which was a while ago). I was cooking at a hotel there and living in residence. Sometimes I thought I'd stay there forever but I love the ocean, too. Jokes on me, I live in a city hours from the mountains and a day from the ocean now. :)

Something about a mountain town after a snow storm... Pretty cool.

Maybe I'm old but I love John Denver's Rocky Mountain High. Takes me back.

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

A few years ago I was stuck in a terrible traffic jam, five hours through ice and snow for a drive that should've been 50 minutes.
A woman froze in her car in that jam, and since then I've made sure to always have a warm sleeping bag in the car.
Also, heated side mirrors are so nice

[–] EliteCaster@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

One variant of this I encounter is driving in the rain. I moved to SoCal from NY, and everyone here freaks out when it so much as drizzles, and there is always insane traffic due to accidents upon any precipitation...

[–] MadBob@feddit.nl 1 points 1 year ago

Something like two of the mates I grew up with can drive at all.