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So I bumped into someone who used to live at my previous place at the shops today. It brought back so much fear and trauma I didn't even know was there. I'm not sure he recognised me, but I froze up as soon as I recognised him and basically ran out of the shops. I'm still really kind of terrified now, because he tends to fixate on things a lot, and although I'm not sure he immediately recognised me, I saw him thinking. He's also the type of person to not let things go and obsess over them until he gets extremely angry and goes on a warpath.
But now I know he visits my closest shops, not really sure what to do. I can't exactly keep going back there, but if he goes to those shops there's a moderate probability he lives around the same area I do. So that's an absolutely terrifying thought
Deep breaths. He might be a one time visitor to those shops. He may not have recognized or noticed you at all. Do you have alternative shops you can go to? This might be a good way to handle this. Even if it means travelling a bit longer or further to get there. Maybe give it a month before visiting your current shops again, then check out the area to see if he is visible before venturing into any enclosed space. You got this. Sending you confidence vibes, and a hug if you want one.
I asked around, apparently he frequents them, so I guess it is time to find a new shops. I normally only go there to buy meat from the butcher though, so I suppose it's not a great loss. He most definitely saw me, and I could just about see him thinking when he did, so I do think it's quite likely he saw me, and also quite likely he will obsess over it until he gets really angry
Thanks for the support and hugs
I’m sorry, that’s the worst. Just when you thought you were free of it all. I’m hoping he goes after the wrong person and they adjust his attitude
Yeah it's quite shit. I'm somewhat holding out hope he's sought help and isn't as violent now, but either way it brought back a whole lot of stuff I wasn't expecting to think about in the middle of shopping