Dude recently talked to my female coworker at length about his erectile dysfunction and how his inability to satisfy a woman is a core facet of his coke addiction. Definitely a real issue but she had nothing to contribute to the conversation beyond "yeah that sucks hopefully you figure that out." I had the same issue a while ago where a dude talked to me for an extended conversation about going on a spiritual journey involving semen retention. I didn't want to duck out and risk invalidating but wtf do I say to that???

We really need more men working in mental health so y'all can have these conversations with each other. We really, desperately need men to start normalizing talking to each other about this. Women have so little to contribute constructively and there's such a huge risk of transference. Please start talking to each other and affirming each other's human worth outside of sexual prowess. This has been so out of pocket since before pockets even existed.

And that's not even getting into the young dudes calling my female coworkers cunts for not making their bed for them who really need a 30-50 y/o man to authoritatively tell them that's not how life works. We need you to come be part of the solution. PLEASE.