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I would say it's of a different nature than in Europe. In Germany people loved me. But infantilized me as well. (And I still can't grasp why Germans thought making "Schlitzaugen" at me was a friendly "greeting" (in their mind ... apparently). They seriously didn't mean anything hostile about it but they kept doing it everywhere.) The overall feeling was "look at the clever monkey", though, not "this person is a threat".
In Canada there's more a hint of ... I don't know ... jealousy, maybe? And it's expressed so passive-aggressively it would make Minnesotans gasp with delight at technique.
Oh, on the Schlitzaugen thing: this was the late '70s, early '80s. A VERY different time.
Well the big one that always popped up was the "they (Asians) just don't value life like we do". Followed by people "noticing" I'm there and then faux-gasping in flustered surprise saying, "Oh no, not you, you're one of the good ones".
It was suspicious how that one got trotted out any time someone Asian accomplished something. And this was across several companies.
There's also the constant low-level snideness over handing difficult maths-related problem to because "they like that kind of stuff". In engineering companies where the nerds formed this weird brigade who would make up reasons to talk to the Asian chicks in marketing (because nerds and "Asian girls") there was also a lot of cattiness with critical comments on the bodily characteristics of Asian coworkers...
Nothing was really ever overtly hostile. Just this constant low-level snide comments and glances.
The Chinese view towards foreigners seems to be more "foreigners are weird" . I mean there's assholes in any country of course, but China being as diverse a place as it is seems to make them more prone to just accepting things as they are.
Queer people here got 30 years of patient diplomacy undone by … I'll be polite and call it "outside influences" … so they're way more circumspect than they were only a decade ago. Tattoos, however, in every form from temporary to permanent are HUGE here. Tattoo parlours pop up everywhere.