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sooo does this count as modern art now? like the kind peeps complain about? i think it gets close to that a bit.

soooo this actually originated as an entirely different post. i drew two figures... spooning. so get ready for maria: after dark and have a look at that drawing.

CW: spooning, in bed

and i didn't feel comfy putting that as my next post. so yea, then i made this abstract version instead and thought "oh hey this is a fun pattern matching exercise for peeps" and here we are now, with me having posted it.

i think it gets the correct feels across. lilac is larger, but only by a bit. if you were to hide the lilac layer, you would see that white is about the same size.

that was really important to me: both sides can be whatever size they are and either one can be lilac or white. and if you want to change color, you are allowed to do that.

this almost feels like the ending of a series, but i dont think it is.

i just didn't want this to be a progression, you know?
because the progression of

  • shushing someone onto a chair
  • wrapping someone in a blanket and hugging them
  • literally spooning them in bed

felt like it would set expectations for the next post. and i dont want that. this is meant to be a fun "oh i wonder what she'll post today" type thing.

so there u go. have this day 5.5 middle step. tomorrow there will be a new one.

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[–] kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

oh y'all is totally ok. still thnx so much, you're the first to have ever asked!! that means a fair bit to us.

going a little more in depth, in short we are sapphic and the person we were snuggling with is a boy. and like we are totally okay with snuggling and stuff but we really really don't want them to get it in their head that we are a romantic opportunity(s).

they are also very very starved for attention & touch so we are unsure they have that self restraint—they are very puppy-like in that regard! we really do care about them and we just don't want them to become really sad if they end up attempting that route and get told no.

oh well, will hopefully sleep soon and stop imagining my own posts happening to be ans getting all giddy about it

you deserve some plushies girl! plus if you are bringing others to your bed, they're bound to enjoy the additional company too =^.^=

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

ooooh i see whats going on.. yeah... yeah its hard for peeps to get the vibes... especially when not articulated.

i have a singular plushy and you can imagine which one.

i don't snuggle it.. don't wanna make it uncomfy. not yet. don't have anyone to bring into bed or even just to the dinner table yet. have to seeeeeee about that... who knows...