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How do I accept that everybody is lying or trying to lie to me? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 weeks ago by sarah2653@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Title might be melodramatic, but read on:

I’m realizing I deal with liars constantly, both individual persons and institutions.

Where I work at the bosses decided to change the supply chain management software we work with. Fine. Employees from the new software company came to train us on it. New software is noticeable worse than old software, hangs, several functions are lost, the whole process is unintuitive, the old software combined several colors to make it easier to find what we need, new software does not. It’s not only that the whole software company lied massively, trying to make us work with something that’s mostly a beta version, but the employees as well trying to convince us how great their software is. WTF? Do they believe we are stupid?

Due to a dispute with a neighbor I hired a lawyer. I was under the assumption this lawyer would be so easy to contact as a lawyer I hired years ago… I was wrong. Turns out they only offer appointments when I’m on duty, but they only told me this AFTER I signed in. Why didn’t they tell me this beforehand? Now I’m trapped on a one year contract with this lawyer, a lawyer I cannot really contact. They have a landline, but even if I call on their working hours, nobody comes. If I write an email asking if their number changed, all I get are passive aggressive answer from said secretary. It’s like all they care about is getting me to sign.

Do I accept people are like this? Do I weed people out?

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[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 36 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

You mapped out two scenarios and in neither scenario did anyone lie to you.

In scenario one I don’t see how the employees of the software company are lying to you. They aren’t the ones who decided to switch the software, your bosses are. Why the bosses made that decision your post did not say. How do you know that your bosses were well aware that they purchased a “beta” version?

In scenario two the primary issue is your assumption. You assumed that this lawyer would be available when you were not working. I don’t know your shift but if that is “9-5” then I am confused by your angst. I have hired a number of lawyers all of them work in the 9-5 time frames. You did not clarify your assumption therefore the lawyer has not lied to you.

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah. It is possible that, in Scenario 1, the bosses were just incompetent. It is possible that either no one in the room knew the problems OP is having or they were people low in seniority who were afraid to speak up.

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Sure.. but no one is lying to him.

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 1 points 2 weeks ago

I agree.