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went to the DMV and got a new picture taken and updated my gender on my ID!!!! in NYS the gender marker is self-reported with no legal schmuff so it was really easy :3

my old ID photo is terrible... so much facial hair... too little head hair... honestly if it weren't for the dysphoria I might just get in trouble for having a viscerally different photo from what I actually look like ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

can't change my name, that's a bit more of an involved legal process... but I'm working on it. in the meantime, this is way way better than nothing.

can't wait for it to arrive :3

and as a reward for reading say hi to Buddy :3

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[โ€“] SUDO@reddthat.com 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Howdy, this came up on my all feed. I wanted to first of all congratulate you on your journey.

As far as changes to your name, if I recall correctly, it was pretty simple when my wife and I got married. She wanted to change her last name. I think she had to go to the social security office. Given, this was all a few years ago.

I wish you the best :)

[โ€“] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Different state here but my kid discovered it's easier to change your last name when you get married but changing your first name is a whole different thing. Funny how entrenched paternalism makes one the accepted norm while rejecting the other as woke

[โ€“] SUDO@reddthat.com 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's a shame. It's your/their name after all.

Fortunately it's easier in the state where they've moved. Still more/different paperwork though.

[โ€“] chattre@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

tysm, it's not easy but I'm living as me which I would fight for any day :3