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I had a lot of nice girlfriends and really fun nice dates from like 2012-2018. Like dozens and dozens.
At least, until they were honest about stuff and they were not so nice. But while they were lying to me the relationships were often wonderful. and I'd have totally married a few of those women had they not been lying to me about who they were.
I really will never understand why folks lie in relationships. Seems like the most surefire way to guarantee you are wasting your time.
that reminds me of one date I had where this woman was super nice and super honest and at the end of the date she told me straight up she was not interested in seeing me again but thank you for spending time with her. It was the the nicest and most pleasant rejection I have ever received in my life. I was not interested in her either, but I wanted to kiss her for being so mature and grown up and assertive. The total opposite of like 99% people I meet who are so passive, and often weird and hostile when they reject you or feel rejected. I've never met anyone else who rejected me and made it so normal and pleasant. It's sad that more folks can't be like her, instead of the normal passive-aggression nonsense where they profess how great it was and they can't wait to see you again and tell you to call them but then ghost or become hostile if you follow up.