Ask Lemmy

Keep in mind that social media is the easy way out of boredom. Doing literally anything else requires more effort. Don't get me wrong, I also feel the need to talk about my interests with other people that i know also share whatever specific thing I'm on about at the moment, reddit's size makes it much better than lemmy - but that's the trap, unfortunately.

Case in point, sometimes I spend way too much time here on lemmy of all things, time that I should be spending on better non productive activities, like actually playing my backlog of games. Sometimes I end up reading some reddit posts because there are no lemmy equivalents (and often the lemmy is just a repost from reddit), but I do avoid commenting and interacting there.

You're extremely unlikely to find the perfect partner or even someone "who understands your tastes perfectly". The algorithms can do that to a point, but interacting with people requires effort and also helps us understand that keeping ourselves inside our niche bubbles isn't good for our social health. I share some interests with my girlfriend, but not several others - I'm lucky she enjoys boardgames and videogames, we can play some stuff together, but not some heavy or hard stuff that I personally enjoy a lot. Sometimes I just want to be left alone and play all day long, other times I suck it up and don't do that in order to keep our relationship going - she understands why I want some "me time" and doesn't judge me. Trust is important and luckily, we both trust each other a lot.

So tldr I guess is try again and fill that boredom with other stuff. If possible, set up an hour a day to be completely off the internet, at least. Avoid social media mostly because, although you can get some nice conversations on topics of your interest, you're mostly dealing with faceless names, and this isn't good for us if it's the most social we get.