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Depression is one of the hardest things I've ever talked to people about. People that don't get depressed don't get it. People that are they themselves depressed can enable bad behavior. People that don't believe in depression (thanks dad) think that you are over reacting. And people that want to help are usually the ones that don't really get it either and don't know how to help.

Of course there is a bias towards negative experiences as when you are depressed those are the ones that stick out the most. But it still seems like bringing it up to people is such a mixed bag that most people end up internalizing it which only exacerbates it and continues the cycle of hiding emotions (I'm speaking from a male perspective if it wasn't obvious).

And as someone that has been horribly depressed at various parts of my life I honestly can't even give any good advice since those parts of my life are such a blur. All I know is that one day I was just okay without even realizing it. Sure I still get depressed from time to time, but I think the part that has changed most about me is my perspective. These days instead of focusing on the feelings of depression I focus on what is causing the depression. Sometimes there is no cause and I just have to deal with it, but most of the time I can figure out what is currently doing it and try and mitigate the issue if I can. And if I can't, I'll try and distract myself when I have free time instead of sitting inside my head.

Everybody's journey is different and I recommend taking what I say with a grain of salt. I was able to face my demons by myself but I know I'm more of am exception rather than the rule. If you think you need help, you probably do. And I recommend help from a professional or someone close to you that has had similar life experience in the past. Talking about it may not seem like it helps sometimes but it really does make small dents over time. And speaking about it out loud can really help you work through something and put it into words instead of generic thoughts floating in your head. It's why a lot of artists and musicians poor their emotions into their work. It's easier to work through things in the real world than it is with the abstraction of ideas that is your mind.

And believe it or not, the advice of "drink water and do yoga" is less about the actual activities and more about letting your mind and body do something else besides be depressed. Pick a different activity that you actually enjoy and just see where it goes. The worst that can happen is that you are still depressed but have a new hobby. And, let's be real, none of us drink enough water.