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So I got feeling for a woman that I share a hobby with and I run into her fairly regularly, she also surprises and impresses me.

She probably knows I have feelings because I said I care about her over text (out of legitimate concern). Now I'm catching myself laughing at the things she says and I actually asked her to calm down because I was laughing at her and another person going at it while im high on an edible in the courthouse.

Like I haven't pursue a relationship. She has a boyfriend and I'm learning healthy relationships (I used to be more antisocial).

I do feel like I come off as a friend,but I feel like women know mens feelings

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[–] daggermoon@piefed.world 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Sure, the same way I love my sisters.

If going all in means trying to initiate a relationship with someone who's already in a relationship then you're asking for trouble.

[–] solidheron@sh.itjust.works -3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Out of context, it sounds like you're in a relationship with your sister.

I don't want to be like "I'm taking it slow", but we have mutual goals and our own lives. So far I've been using the feelings to motivate me to know her better. Full on relationship seems too far into the future if it were to ever happen.

[–] daggermoon@piefed.world 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I'm not going to reply to this thread any further but I will leave you with this: You're dillusional. Speaking from experience. I don't say that to mean, I say that because you need to hear it. If you act on your feelings, you will very likely hurt both yourself and her. This won't lead to any positive relationship.

[–] solidheron@sh.itjust.works -2 points 6 days ago

Seems like you're afraid of love or afraid you won't respect boundaries.

Plus everyone's weird about giving me advice when the question is if women can pick up on feelings men have. I'm thinking she knows but doesn't care