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The ideal sexual pairing of heterosexual partners is old<->young (lemmus.org)
submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by Epp@lemmus.org to c/unpopularopinion@lemmy.world
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Strictly of legal age, but old men are better lovers for young women, and young men are better lovers for older women.

Why? Many reasons:

  1. Their libidos are better matched - older men are starting to slow down just as women's libido increase due to menopause.
  2. An older man is more likely to know how to make a woman orgasm, while an older woman is going to be more confident in telling her partner what she wants, which leads to younger women learning how to enjoy sex, and younger men learning how to pleasure a partner.
  3. Attraction - men typically find youth attractive, while women typically find seniority to be attractive. This is a natural result of evolution causing men to seek more viable pairing for offspring, and women to seek more experienced men who have demonstrated fortitude and likely have acquired resources to support children.

In society, the knee jerk reaction is to shun or mock pairings of opposite ends of the age spectrum (I decided to post this after seeing Hugh Hefner and Leonardo DiCaprio being the target of mockery) but their relations are the healthiest and best possible match for both parties.

Exceptions to the rules - not all older men have learned how to help their partners orgasm, and not all older women have their libidos rev up to match that of young men - but in general, older<->younger is the ideal pairing sexually.

Edit: Based on the upvote/downvote ratio this is NOT an unpopular opinion. I had no idea so many people agreed with me! 😯

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[-] Southsamurai@reddthat.com 11 points 3 weeks ago

First, never whine about votes, nor crow about them. It's just not cool.

Second,I suspect the cause has nothing to do with your edit. More likely, people suspect it's rage bait rather than a genuine post. I agree, after seeing your responses in comments, and regret having originally upvoted.

That out of the way, I actually only disagree about the idea that it's the ideal pairings. Age gaps only matter in sex when one person is using their age as a tool of manipulation. But they aren't automatically better when farther apart. They might be, but there's a lot to be said for similarities in age cohorts being a better indicator of compatibility than the erroneous assumption that age = skill. You did mention that there are exceptions, I'm using that specific aspect as an example just because it's easiest.

[-] Epp@lemmus.org -5 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I was neither whining nor crowing. Just pointing out the obvious conclusion. Why would I care what was cool though, by the way?

It's not bait of any kind, it's my opinion.

Thanks for your assessment; I find it interesting. Ideal, is of course, my opinion. Since there's no objective certainty possible.

Edit: a better way to state ideal is that regardless of my own age and gender, I'd rather be in a relationship with a large age gap. I think that's one way to assess ideality, right? It's the ideal if you'd be happy to enter into the arrangement, as it's defined, with a random entry point.

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