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The hustle that is parenthood
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this post was submitted on 14 Aug 2026
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Kids are understandable. What (mildly) annoys me is the free pass for smoke breaks.
Id say its about the same.
UNO reverse card: Kids are a choice, smoking is an addiction.
But smoking is to a degree a choice. Tobacco isnt like heroin. You can quit it cold turkey . And YES I GET IT its a hard addiction to defeat , weve known this for like half a century now.... but it can be defeated with enough time and patience away from tobacco.
But kids are not a choice you can or can not take care of once you have produced them. Personally I feel that the modern economy makes it so that EVERYONE should be discouraged from having kids cause the hours and pay that person has to work these days in most places is nonsensical. So I dont get why we STILL have so many cultures that continue to peer pressure people into having 'band-aid babies' or 'young-love, straight-outta-college babies' but thats just me. Only choice you have when youre having a child is to abort or not and to give them up to adoption or not. After that? Youre only options are 'take care of them when you have the time to' (break time) or 'watch them destroy your life, your community , and their lives' '
You don't "defeat" an addiction. You always will be an addict, just one that stopped using the substance.
Ah youre correct. Im wrong. Sorry.
Its more like you avoid the substance( like alcohol addiction or nicotine or whatever youre addicted to ) or the pracetice (whether that be gambling addiction or self-harming addiction or whatever) and find that it doesnt impact your life . You dont ever truly 'defeat' an addiction. You just significantly taper its impact to your life.