Unpopular Opinion
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Rules:
1. NO POLITICS
Politics is everywhere. Let's make this about [general] and [lemmy] - specific topics, and keep politics out of it.
2. Be civil.
Disagreements happen, but that doesn’t provide the right to personally attack others. No racism/sexism/bigotry. Please also refrain from gatekeeping others' opinions.
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4. Shitposts and memes are allowed but...
Only until they prove to be a problem. They can and will be removed at moderator discretion.
5. No trolling.
This shouldn't need an explanation. If your post or comment is made just to get a rise with no real value, it will be removed. You do this too often, you will get a vacation to touch grass, away from this community for 1 or more days. Repeat offenses will result in a perma-ban.
6. Defend your opinion
This is a bit of a mix of rules 4 and 5 to help foster higher quality posts. You are expected to defend your unpopular opinion in the post body. We don't expect a whole manifesto (please, no manifestos), but you should at least provide some details as to why you hold the position you do.
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Is this unpopular? I thought the common wisdom was the older you get the harder it is to socialize.
I guess this could mean college is hard if you’re in middle or high school, but I think most lemmings are well beyond that? I could be wrong.
Anyway college seems like a prime socializing environment to me (as a forty-something).
I am older. It's not hard to socialize at all. What's missing are two key ingredients: i) you have to meet a lot of people to make a good friend. In school there were probably hundreds of children around your age at your school, at the playground, on your sports teams etc. You wound up being good friends with 4 or 5? Apply that to your adult life and you probably don't have the same volume of connections, so the friend making process is slower.
ii) You need to spend big chunks of time with them, some of it unstructured. Again school and university is set up like this. Adult life is generally not. If you have kids in sports that's probably the closest thing you can get to replicating the grade school situation. But see i. You'll wind up not vibing with most of the parents you hang out with.
I dunno, #1 gets kinda weird when you ask someone if they want to come over to your house and play when you're both 20+. Seems to go really bad, or really good. Although we never even got my Matchbox collection out... I think they might just be using me 🤔
Matchbox is pretty hardcore. I usually lead with coffee or a beer after work.
Although now that I think about it...to match up with grade school you should ask everyone at the office to your birthday party and see who shows up. You should also give everyone a Valentine 😏
Well according to the new generation of freshmen that they can’t cause 50% of the population fiance bros and fucking frat bros lmao
Oh, so this is a "new generation bad" post. Great content, thanks for posting.
... What?
Yeah, I'm pretty sure college is considered by most to be the easiest time to socialize.