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submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/adhd@lemmy.world

I've always made up a person to fit in. Masking has taken a toll and I hate the person I've pretended to be. That person is boring, polished, and an over achiever. Since.I was punished severely on a daily basis at 4 years old and afterwards, my true self never was known to me. Only my self who could survive.

Where do we find our unmasked real self after reaching "the big one" burnout? When your braim stops working, you're no longer functional, and the person you made can no longer be sustained, what do you do?

I'm in my 40s and it's rough.

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[-] gandalf_der_13te@feddit.org -5 points 1 day ago

if you have a burnout in middle age, i'd recommend chilling out and reading a book under an apple tree, maybe, but the printing press wasn't invented yet. maybe go to see some knight tournaments instead?

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