Well switch the gender roles and see if you come to the same conclusion.

A man goes to grab a drink from a woman's hand, and as it spills she throws it into his face. He then steps into her space to slap her, and she pushes him back across a bench. She then steps into his space to kick him back to the ground. She grabs her phone and bag in an effort to leave, while the man grabs a weapon (a bottle) and brandishes it aggressively. She then throat punches him and he goes down. She continues to leave.

If you can't go through the same scenario with the gender roles reversed and land on the same conclusion, you've come to the wrong conclusion.