Uh no? We had talked about it on the phone (web help and housecleaning help) before meeting at the restaurant, and she'd sent me the url of her then-in-progress web site so I knew what it was. Nothing new spilled. But yeah, in such a situation I probably should have just offered to get the check and saying I could afford it and wasn't expecting something, instead of just picking it up without asking. But, as mentioned I had picked the restaurant and while it wasn't fancy, it was kind of midrange, not real cheap. She wouldn't have picked that place if it were up to her, so I was responsible. And I picked it mostly because it was nearby and convenient. to me It's ok, I think I understood afterwards, but too late.

IDK if I was an unusually good listener. We were both old enough to not be be too distracted by the type of work she did, so it was a normal type of intro chat that I think went ok til the check came.

Aha, I see from my earlier post that my description skipped the part that I already knew it was a porn site before we met up. Sorry about that. It was a long time ago and I didn't organize the story in my mind enough before posting it.