239
Me_irl
(lemmy.nz)
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
this post was submitted on 17 Sep 2026
239 points (97.2% liked)
me_irl
8282 readers
328 users here now
All posts need to have the same title: me_irl it is allowed to use an emoji instead of the underscore _
founded 3 years ago
MODERATORS
Its called anxious avoidant type binding disorder and it's actually treatable pretty well if you want to change that. It happens if your parents are unable to give you emotional care if you asked for it as a young kid.
It can also be that the person you’re in a relationship with sucks and both things are just true. I want to be left alone because my current option sucks but I would love to have a good option and get very cuddly.
Ohhhhhhhhhh
AvDP being a living hell til I got help in therapy
Avoidant double penetration?
Oops, AvPD
Alien versus Predator Dickdown?
My money's on Predator Dickdown
Can you maybe give some detail on the process? My soon to be ex wife and mother of my children has this, I'm sure of it. Maybe some insight into the process might help convince her to try therapy instead of destroying our family.
I had been through a suicidal depressive episode that i thankfully got help with, after which I wanted to try and get help with my other mental difficulties.
I met with a doctor because I was convinced I was on the spectrum so he referred me to a therapist.
After some biweekly sessions after a couple of months the therapist concluded i didn't have autism but AvPD and social anxiety, I've always felt there was something wrong with me so finally getting a name for it helped me a lot.
It involved the therapist asking a lot about childhood, phoning my parents with questions and how I experience/feel social situations, wanting to have/form social connections but feeling absolutely unable to, almost like I unconsciously limit myself from forming connections in fear of being rejected.
I've gotten better on social anxiety thanks to exposure therapy, but AvPD is still something I occasionally feel and experience, it helps a lot just knowing about and being aware of it and pushing through my comfort zone and boundaries.