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What terrifies men the most about homosexuality?
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Like someone already said in here,
I would say that the type of people that are "terrified" are the type that are "hyper-competitive".
They're extremely status minded and constantly want to tear people down to pull themselves up.
It's also why they're disgusted with non-manliness, which is not the same as gay in my opinion.
You can have a manly man who is gay and a girly man who is heterosexual.
Even making fun of acting tough behavior gets them into disgust.
You can't have fun with these people.
I do have to say, before I was in a relationship,
I would get annoyed if mistaken for gay and thus prefer to avoid any confusion.
I consider the dating market to be skewed in favor of women simply by the numbers
and anything to further pull down those chances was the last thing I needed.
I was sequestered indoors my entire life. My parents lived in the middle of nowhere, and wouldn't help me get away from home -- tried to get my license several times. I wasn't allowed to go to other people's houses. People weren't allowed to come over -- they could be bad influences. My first snowman was at 28 years old. I tried to go to college and they disconnected the Internet mid-semester, because it was Satanic.
School was a battleground of guys terrified to be anywhere near me.
Every time I try and find male friends, it always ends in me not being manly enough. And it's rattled me to my core. I literally can't be around men anymore, despite doing numerous home and auto repairs growing up. Wiring shit together, etc. It always ends the same. I've always wanted guy friends. I just can't try anymore.
Which is the reason for the question. Why are grown-ass men afraid of people not being manly enough?
This seems to be less about manliness and more about, you understand feelings and emotions. They've been told to stuff that shit down and don't express it. Ever. They may be more afraid of feelings and emotion than anything.
I'm sorry you've been treated this way. There's nothing wrong with you. I think if a man is scared of gay people it's because of their own insecurities.