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They could also have just used stone, keeping with the primitive rural theme.
It's kind of like if one pig walked, the other rode a bike, and the third had private jet.
Well again, that's a different story, as that's about things they had, not things they did.
It's a good story, a good lesson--prepare carefully for the future. I'd want my kids to learn it too, and I'd probably tell them this story for that reason.
BUT
If you can prevent bad things happening to you, when bad things happen you could have prevented them, ie it is your fault.
This story does is one more brick to the foundation of the just of the just world fallacy.
Then again, do I want my kids to have an existential crisis at 3-years-old and kill themselves in despair of living in an unfair world where they have little agency over their destiny? Probably not.
Yeah, I mean both stories are important and you can absolutely teach both of these lessons.
Teaching to prepare for the future is not inherently bad though, it's teaching self reliance, is incredibly important. And the truth is, you can prepare for the future on a day to day basis. If you're planning a beach trip, bring sunscreen, an extra pair of socks, your sand toys, the more prepared they are, the more fun the kid will have.
Simultaneously, since humans have existed, parents have been telling children that "life is not fair", and that's also a very important lesson, and a hard one to accept. As they get older you start expanding on what you mean by that, pointing out the inequities in society, and how it might affect them.
The danger of teaching children only that the world isn't fair, and they may never be able to achieve what some others will have handed to them, is that it can leave them feeling helpless. And helplessness can be just as deadly as a big bad wolf. They do need to be prepared to take care of themselves, personally I think that's your primary job as a parent, to help them figure out how to do that.
It's true, the world isn't just, but regardless, you also won't achieve much without putting in work.