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Toxic relationship
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this post was submitted on 24 Sep 2026
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OOOOH! Yes. That's another good point that I never even thought about. I just naturally never used my hands, because I don't like it anyways, but I always used a feather on a stick/string.
Another thing I never use is laserpens. I used to. I feel bad that I ever did. It's fun, but then you learn that cats play is only stimulating their hunting drives. And since they can catch the feather on a string, they feel a sense of satisfaction for having caught it. Whereas they can't catch a red dot. So never catching it apparently gives them PTSD. They feel depressed that they can't be good hunters if they can't catch the red dot.
If you were using both, it was probably okay. The cat quickly learns the red dot is a lie and either decides not to chase it, or decides it's good for a bit of pouncing and then grabs a different toy to fight or a snack of kibble to bite.
Depends on the cat too. I've got one right now that only wants to chase, not catch. He doesn't care about catching the feather on the string, or the toy that I throw, he just wants an excuse to go zoom.
It'd be nice if he could figure out how to fetch though. I'll throw a toy, and he'll go racing after it, but then when he gets to it he just comes back to me so I can throw another one.
One of mine. She's only interested as long as it's moving. I once woke up to her with a mouse in her mouth, then she dropped it because it wasn't doing anything.
The mouse was safely corraled into a tshirt and let outside. His siblings were less fortunate and met the elder floof who is part maine coon and all murder machine.
If i used the laserpen, i made it a rule to always at the end put some treats somewhere and point the laser there, which seems to be adequate compensation for their effort ;-)
My partner and I foster cats, and most of them love it when we roll toys back and forth between each other for them to chase/intercept. One time we decided to use an "invisible toy" where we just brushed our knuckles against the carpet as if we were rolling/catching something, and our poor foster kitty freaked the fuck out and it took a good 10 minutes or so for him to get back to baseline after we realized we should stop. Never done that bit again ๐