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I've been there. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. It is extremely difficult. I developed a set of rules for myself with my dad. I don't know if any of them will help you, but as I figured them out they helped me.
It's all hard on everyone.
Thank you for the reply. These rules are ones I learned to follow as well. I had to tell my siblings it’s okay if he’s saying he has to go to work tomorrow, that he’s caught a huge fish yesterday etc .. whatever it may be don’t correct him. They finally got the memo and things are smoother.
His primary doctor said he needed a colonoscopy and I said absolutely the hell not. I’ve had a few and they’re rough as fuck even when you’re fully capable of taking care of yourself. I told my siblings that was a non negotiable. No way is my dad being put through that, all the prep, leaving his safe space and being sedated? Insane.
I have a lot more common sense I guess you could say. Things come naturally to me on how to handle him with dignity. My brothers are kinda brash. They’ve learned to ask me how to handle things and it seems dad is happier and smiles more.
Sorry for the rambling. It’s just hard to deal with when it happens so early and you’re still young.
You aren't rambling. And good on you for saying no to the colonoscopy. You are absolutely correct. My mom never really learned the rules I figured out. She'd challenge him on asking who she was. Because sometimes he'd forget. It really upset her, which I get. The challenge upset him and that would lead to things going downhill. I don't think he necessarily knew who she was or I was specifically, but he knew that we were important to him. And honestly that's all that mattered. Stay strong, take breaks, take turns with family. It will be difficult. Don't wear yourself out.