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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by distal@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I liked OkCupid's question system, but since that place has become unusable there is no good way of meeting people online without investing considerable effort sifting through discord servers and whatnot. I had high hopes for Matrix, but Matrix turned out to have a fair share of rooms full of really mentally ill people set on evading moderation.

I'm not talking about romantic or sexual dating, that is not the aim. So far I've only met one person online who proved to be a consistent friend.

The whole conundrum is so troubling to me that I have started thinking about building a crude matching algorithm and using that for a FLOSS chatting site that doesn't have pictures, bios, searchable profiles and all that jazz. Just: 'yes'/'no' and 6 pt scale questions. Maybe also a contrast mode to discover radically different people. The biggest obstacle here would be certain legal questions (especially around liability.)

Before I start doing that I want to ask if anyone here knows of a decent site to meet people.

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[-] otacon239@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

~~I just checked this out but $10 a week just to find local groups is ridiculous! I’m not even looking for dates and now even the not-really-for-dating app is paid. No wonder people can’t meet anyone anymore.~~

Edit: I was duped by their subscription screen. I was wrong

[-] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

Wow, that’s pretty nuts. Good for them to not make it riddled with ads but $10 a month?!

[-] fatcat@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 2 weeks ago

$10? How do you get to that price? I see groups in my local area without even logging in. There is a Pro option, which is for organizers who organize more things.

[-] otacon239@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

I was duped by their subscription page during setup. I’ll edit my comment.

this post was submitted on 01 Oct 2026
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