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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by distal@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I liked OkCupid's question system, but since that place has become unusable there is no good way of meeting people online without investing considerable effort sifting through discord servers and whatnot. I had high hopes for Matrix, but Matrix turned out to have a fair share of rooms full of really mentally ill people set on evading moderation.

I'm not talking about romantic or sexual dating, that is not the aim. So far I've only met one person online who proved to be a consistent friend.

The whole conundrum is so troubling to me that I have started thinking about building a crude matching algorithm and using that for a FLOSS chatting site that doesn't have pictures, bios, searchable profiles and all that jazz. Just: 'yes'/'no' and 6 pt scale questions. Maybe also a contrast mode to discover radically different people. The biggest obstacle here would be certain legal questions (especially around liability.)

Before I start doing that I want to ask if anyone here knows of a decent site to meet people.

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[-] Bipauler@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 weeks ago
[-] distal@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago

I'm trying it out. It's pretty decent.

[-] Bipauler@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

The main feed thing is kind of interesting, I'm not very familiar with a lot of these sites but it's cool it's got a social aspect to it That's not just about getting laid or something.

this post was submitted on 01 Oct 2026
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