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this post was submitted on 11 Oct 2026
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Hard dislike, if you aren’t in company of actual queer folks (or do outnumber them massively).
I get that especially straight women see it as a safe place (and I wish there were more of those) - but where there are straight women straight men usually follow - and at some point they outnumber "us". And now I do not feel welcome at the only gay bar in town - it is most of the time essentially a bar with some queer decoration.
Some gay bars in the next bigger city do not allow women for this exact reason. Others enforce it via kinky attire dress code (e.g. leather, rubber, lycra, puppys, etc.) - but that can be annoying when you don’t have a specific kink for that dress code and this may not have the required outfit.