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Nail polish does feel pretty easily explainable for the most part. "I was out with some female friends, and they thought it would be fun to paint my nails". Its not a wildly unusual thing even for hetero boys, if anything, it means you have female friends.
Good luck.
not a bad idea tbh. unfortunately, young teenage dysphoric+depressed me built up this stupid persona of not having/wanting any friends because "i don't care about anything except programming", and i haven't really been able to rid myself of it in the years since - any mention of me interacting with another person just gets met with sarcastic amusement. will do some brainstorming though and see if i can build that into something plausible...
thanks
"The girl next to me in class was bored so she painted my nails, I was bored as well so I let her. No big deal" - Downplays the significance to "bored and fidgeting", which might work?
watch out for details, you also have to explain the bag of cosmetics. If they are not convinced (and they won't be, because they already made up their minds) a full room shakedown is on the table.
the problem is, her dad already made up a story and opinion in his mind. You could say that you painted one nail for every woman you banged last night just to keep count, and he'll still be unmovable in what he KNOWS be the ABSOLUTE TRUTH. I'm sorry op, best of luck, I'm hope you can find someone in EU you can couch surf in this community
Yeah, for any normal person its an easy sell, for a MAGA type, probably not. You'd have to go pretty aggressive on the "Lol, you think nail polish makes me gay? If I was gay I'd far more flamboyant" or something.