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When did you realize you were out of touch?
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I have always been "out of touch". I used to reject pop-culture because I thought I was too cool for it. Now I avoid pop-culture because it's a habit. Whenever I attempt to participate in pop-culture I quickly realize why I made avoiding it a habit.
I find myself actually going back and consuming pop culture from my time line that I looked down on as a hormonal teenager. I was extreamly judgemental of pop culture and hated specific genres of music, movies, how people dressed, whatever.
Its all my culture now and whatever personal bias I had due to precieved cultural differences are minimal. Now that we have matured its easier to appreciate the shared experience you have with someone in your age group and you're more willing to branch out with that perspective.
I'm still out of touch and regressive holding on to nostalgia rather than trying something new, but I think thats just what's supposed to happen. I think it would be more embarrassing if I tried to keep up and get into mumble ai rap or whatever's cool now.
Usually when I go back and check something out that I have shunned I feel vindicated because it was indeed awful. Just because it was just popular at the time does not mean it was ever good.
For example Friends, Seinfeld, The Office or The Sopranos are all just unwatchable garbage to me. I did go back and watch Breaking Bad after seeing Better Call Saul, It (breaking bad) was no where near as good (as better call saul) but I didn't hate it.
I also liked Dexter for a few seasons when I finally broke down and watched it though I admit I have never finished it because it just got so bad.
For the most part though I found I missed very little because what I skipped then still sucks now.
I mean much of it is still garbage but I am much more open to it than I was in the past. Maybe I made it sound all to encompassing but it has opened me up to more media I wouldn't of listened to before, and is easier for me to get into than whatever spotifiy would suggest to me.
There's a comfort in it even though its bad that feels safer than new. I found myself tapping my toe in line at the store when they had shania twian playing recently.