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then you’ll be getting as much force-feminization as you’ll consent to 😈
If life hands you boys, make girls!
Unfortunately forced fem is kind of a hard limit for me 😅 I had a long period of being more femme and am working to intentionally reclaim masculinity, at least for the parts that do connect with me. I'm still on estrogen by choice, have boobs, and sit down to pee out of preference, so what masculinity means to me is obviously a bit different than most masc aligned people. Sometimes I kinda struggle with feeling like I'll only be received positively and appreciated in femininity.
But I appreciate the energy and flirting regardless! ☺️❤️
Valid and heard 🫡 consent is super important
so what do you like to have whispered into your ear as you’re being lightly abused by a lesbian mommy-domme little one?
Uhhh
That I'm pleasing. That I'm wanted. And things that make clear they can see through my reflexive masking of social vulnerability, like hiding when I enjoy something 🥹
If someone can see that I'm wet, or see how I'm avoiding eye contact, or see that I'm squirming and I'm not able to hide how I'm reflexively reacting to them, them pointing it out and clearly enjoying that they can see through me and find my vulnerability gratifying turns my brain into mush...
Adorable and delightful :) what a sweet boy you are.
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Hope you have a lovely night ☺️
As a cis-man who has been cis and masc healthily my entire life, people have the weirdest expectations of masculinity. Lol. I usually sit to pee too, unless I'm using a public restroom with urinals. I don't think that's a fem thing.
In my opinion, the most masculine thing someone can do is not worry about what things are masculine. Do what makes you feel good. Men who are worried about if other men will think they're manly enough are insecure in their masculinity. As an example, I have long hair, which isn't typically masculine but a lot of men will stop to tell me to not cut it. If I was worried about doing things that are manly then I wouldn't have it.
If you're a man then you're a man. Stop worrying so much if other people think you're manly enough because you'll never satisfy them all. Be yourself!