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How do I stop masturbating? (lemmy.today)

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I lost NNN and I regret it (every year I'm lying to myself by saying that I'll do it this year, but hey, nothing I can do about it; tho the best thing that I can do for now is to survive till the end of the month with an imaginary HP left). Honestly, that's only the tip of the iceberg when it comes down to the way masturbation addiction (won't call it porn addiction, since the spectre of things that I was doing while ''doing it'' is substantially wider than that) has affected me. Won't get into much detail, but it's pretty bad. Gotta be honest with myself. Might be wrong, or right, but I feel like an important part of it is the fact that I'm still a virgin. I would love to hear anyone willing to share his thoughts with me. Your effort is much appreciated!

P.S. also, I'm posting this as a timestamp in my journey of battling this cheap butt addiction, literally

P.P.S. feel free to ask any questions

P.P.P.S. thanks for all the support, guys, you're awesome

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[-] PvpiChulo@lemmy.today 1 points 16 hours ago

sure thing it is, but, to be Frank with you, I am doing it waaaay too much, and it has affected me mentally (in other words, it's a problem with a history, which I haven't addressed yet, but should've quite a while ago)

[-] SPRUNTnsfw@fedinsfw.app 5 points 14 hours ago

I've seen you comment a few times about doing it "too much", but that's pretty ambiguous given the wide range of sexuality. There are people who are asexual and have no interest, there are people with high sex drives where "once a day" is the average, and people with sex overdrive who let it rule their life.

Maybe you just have a higher sex drive than you think you "should". Without the context of knowing what you consider "too much" it's difficult to have an opinion on whether it's an actual problem or a perceived problem.

Also, that time right after you finish and everything feels disgusting and you're wondering WTF you're doing.... That's the refractory period. This is a biological effect 'designed' to stop you from going right back at it and scooping your sperm out, thus reducing the chance of pregnancy. Women typically do not feel this effect as severely because evolution wants them to make babies (I believe this is the underlying cause to why many women are multi-orgasmic and most men are not.) Similar to the variances in sex drive, the refractory period has different intensities for different people. You might have a high drive and strong refractory, which seems like a mixture for self-loathing when you add societal stigma to it.

[-] disregardable@lemmy.zip 9 points 16 hours ago

Your guilt is what is causing you to feel bad, not the masturbating. It is the guilt that is the problem, and it is the guilt that you have to let go.

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