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How do I stop masturbating? (lemmy.today)

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I lost NNN and I regret it (every year I'm lying to myself by saying that I'll do it this year, but hey, nothing I can do about it; tho the best thing that I can do for now is to survive till the end of the month with an imaginary HP left). Honestly, that's only the tip of the iceberg when it comes down to the way masturbation addiction (won't call it porn addiction, since the spectre of things that I was doing while ''doing it'' is substantially wider than that) has affected me. Won't get into much detail, but it's pretty bad. Gotta be honest with myself. Might be wrong, or right, but I feel like an important part of it is the fact that I'm still a virgin. I would love to hear anyone willing to share his thoughts with me. Your effort is much appreciated!

P.S. also, I'm posting this as a timestamp in my journey of battling this cheap butt addiction, literally

P.P.S. feel free to ask any questions

P.P.P.S. thanks for all the support, guys, you're awesome

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[-] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 38 points 1 day ago

Masturbation is a healthy normal part of human existence and is to be celebrated.

NNN is at best a silly joke inspired by Seinfeld's "master of my domain". At my most generous, it can serve as a reminder of how great masturbation is because you never miss something as much as when you lose it.

At its worst, it is toxic manosphere incel poison.

Being a virgin means nothing. When you are ready and find a suitably ready partner it will happen. Nothing about you changes. You don't become a man. Equally staying a virgin is fine too, you always have masturbation! No need to mourn the loss of an experience you weren't ready for in the first place. It's really not a big deal. We build it up like its some holy grail but when most people finally do have sex, their reactions leans toward relief for ticking off a checkbox and disapointment that it wasn't more.

[-] PvpiChulo@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I agree 100% with you. But I must admit, I abuse it and it's an actual problem. It has affected me mentally and physically (won't get into much detail here, but I get pretty bad withdrawals after masturbating at times, more often than not I physically feel uncomfortable if I'm not touching myself, even if the activity that I'm doing is not sexually arousing in any way, I am tired everyday all the day etc). I don't have a problem with the act itself, but with the addiction. It's a problem that I'm willing to solve tho.

[-] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I have trouble understanding the term addiction here. Withdrawals? The terminology is being borrowed from drugs and I'm not sure how it fits. If you suspect there is a real issue, you need professional medical support from a doctor, psychiatrist or sexual health professional.

Sad jokes like NNN do not help and more often than not do real harm.

[-] snooggums@piefed.world 3 points 1 day ago

Just cut it down to a couple times a week instead of trying to stop completely for long periods of time. Make a schedule if you need to.

Moderation is the way to go.

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