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How do I stop masturbating? (lemmy.today)

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I lost NNN and I regret it (every year I'm lying to myself by saying that I'll do it this year, but hey, nothing I can do about it; tho the best thing that I can do for now is to survive till the end of the month with an imaginary HP left). Honestly, that's only the tip of the iceberg when it comes down to the way masturbation addiction (won't call it porn addiction, since the spectre of things that I was doing while ''doing it'' is substantially wider than that) has affected me. Won't get into much detail, but it's pretty bad. Gotta be honest with myself. Might be wrong, or right, but I feel like an important part of it is the fact that I'm still a virgin. I would love to hear anyone willing to share his thoughts with me. Your effort is much appreciated!

P.S. also, I'm posting this as a timestamp in my journey of battling this cheap butt addiction, literally

P.P.S. feel free to ask any questions

P.P.P.S. thanks for all the support, guys, you're awesome

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[-] remon@ani.social 6 points 21 hours ago

Is it touching yourself or full on masturbation? Men have their hands in their trousers all the time when no one is looking. I'm almost double your age and I when I'm home alone just watching shows I fiddle with my dick all the time ... not even in a sexual way.

If that is what you do, that perfectly normal .. I think. Or we're both weirdos.

[-] ScientifficDoggo@lemmy.zip 3 points 20 hours ago

Its not even a strictly male thing either. The amount of women I've witnessed completely casually slap, jiggle, etc... their bits is comparable to males (in my totally unscientific and anecdotal experience)

[-] remon@ani.social 1 points 20 hours ago

Oh yeah, I don't doubt that at all!

[-] PvpiChulo@lemmy.today 1 points 20 hours ago

Something in-between I'd say. When I'm doing it, it's an automatism. When I don't, I feel kinda uncomfortable and I have to do it. Also, sometimes I rub one out just to feel kinda normal again (for another, let's say, hour) and not have to crave it. I'm doing it not out of pleasure, but out of I don't even know what at this point.

Tho I'm pretty sure that we're not the only ones fiddling around, so it's chill... I think haha.

[-] remon@ani.social 4 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

When I don’t, I feel kinda uncomfortable and I have to do it.

As long as you can control it enough so you don't suddenly wank off in a public or an otherwise inappropriate setting, it should be fine. If it's an issue, maybe consider getting a therapist.

[-] PvpiChulo@lemmy.today 2 points 20 hours ago

Will look into it. Many thanks!

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