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How do I stop masturbating? (lemmy.today)

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I lost NNN and I regret it (every year I'm lying to myself by saying that I'll do it this year, but hey, nothing I can do about it; tho the best thing that I can do for now is to survive till the end of the month with an imaginary HP left). Honestly, that's only the tip of the iceberg when it comes down to the way masturbation addiction (won't call it porn addiction, since the spectre of things that I was doing while ''doing it'' is substantially wider than that) has affected me. Won't get into much detail, but it's pretty bad. Gotta be honest with myself. Might be wrong, or right, but I feel like an important part of it is the fact that I'm still a virgin. I would love to hear anyone willing to share his thoughts with me. Your effort is much appreciated!

P.S. also, I'm posting this as a timestamp and journal of my journey of battling this cheap butt addiction, literally

P.P.S. feel free to ask any questions

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[-] reksas@sopuli.xyz 2 points 6 hours ago

eat rice cereal /j

It may help if you have something engaging to do, especially if its something that requires some effort to quit too once you get started so its more of a bother to go masturbate.

Taking a break from masturbation mostly just builds the pressure / restores something so you get more out of it, there is no sense in trying to completely stop it or follow stupid trends that have no basis on anything useful.

Another thing you could do is try to lower the amount of times per day slowly. Like, lower it by one and keep it up. Once the current amount feels like you can handle it easily then lower it by one again until you are at acceptable (to you) levels.

Also try to do something physically draining. start going to gym, go to walks, do sports if you like them. Physical activity will help you feel better and maybe offset the dopamine addiction from masturbation. And it will keep you occupied.

I'm kind in similar position myself, though for me its less of an addiction and more coping mechanism for depression.. i think. But i'm not sure how much similar position im as you considering how you describe the issue. I can empathize at least.

Getting experience about sex has good chance of helping, though it wont remove the problem completely. But it will make things easier mentally to not feel like you are missing out / know how it is. Finding a girlfriend would also help, but i know that is almost like telling someone to go find holy grail to cure their ails. At least I know it would help me a lot.

[-] PvpiChulo@lemmy.today 2 points 6 hours ago

Sure thing, dude. Thanks for the advice, it really means a lot for me! Also, keep your head up, and in case that you need a piece of advice or simply someone to be listened by, never hesitate to speak up. Never. Also, sometimes we get caught in the small things and forget how beautiful life is. Take care!

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