786
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[-] MyVeryRealName@lemmy.world 66 points 1 week ago

We as a society treat children like shit.

[-] spankysalmon@fedinsfw.app 27 points 1 week ago

Yea but have you met children??

/s

[-] MyVeryRealName@lemmy.world 20 points 1 week ago

The problem is that we refuse to take responsibility for brats and treat nervous kids like shit instead. And they can't even speak up cuz they're kids.

[-] spankysalmon@fedinsfw.app 1 points 1 week ago

I don't know who 'we' is, but it does happen 100,000x on smaller scales with shitty parents. I'm sure it'd be a different story if 90% of adults wouldn't get in trouble for parenting someone else's kids these days to make up for the shitty parents.

[-] MyVeryRealName@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago

It's not just parents. Schools play a huge role as well.

[-] spankysalmon@fedinsfw.app 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Eh. Schools are directly beholden to laws regulating how much anyone can have input on a child. All of the helicopter parents are directly fucking over school staff for disciplining the trouble students who have no idea what authority even means, let alone what police can do to them should they start to genuinely fuck around.

We should both understand how the autistic and otherwise socially aware and perhaps anxious children behave. They might see segregation. They might see quite a lot of chiding asshole teachers, but so long as we allow words to be spoken and shared in honesty, they should have a navigable time through the scholastic system.

[-] MyVeryRealName@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Idk how it is in your country but schools can very much expel brats in mine.

[-] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

And it's a problem nobody cares about, because if you're a kid, no one listens to you because you're subhuman and beneath consideration, and if as an adult you support kids being people, you're accused of being a pedophile.

[-] MyVeryRealName@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago

I've never seen anyone seriously accuse someone of being a pedophile IRL. Everyone knows the gravity of such an accusation.

[-] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago
[-] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

That's how they're treated, yeah. They shouldn't be.

[-] some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

It feels like it's turning though. Or maybe that's just in my circle.. You're describing an authoritarian parenting style. "Because I said so"

That's how my wife and I grew up, more or less. Naturally, it put us both off. Our parents were not bad people, and have certainly come around with age. But they settled for certain bad patterns at times because they didn't know an alternative, or one wasn't culturally acceptable, only for "other" types of people - many reasons. They were also much younger, just barely adults themselves, and still not quite escaped from the gravity of their parents ideas.

But we think differently. There are still rules. We haven't swung full permissive. That's just as bad. But the "why" behind them matters. Understanding when how and why one would break them also matters. We are building a full-on person. There are many many different things you need to shepherd them through, starting with the very lowest level basics an adult doesn't have to think about for themselves.

Like how to poop.For real, we had to create the conditions for them to realize how to literally let poop out of their body. Which I guess is not always an automatic thing at first? It took a few days with ours, lots of belly massages, and strapping them to this weird vibratey cushion thing that was strangely effective

We want them to understand how things work. You have to be there all the time to build a really strong bond. They need a solid foundation of love, safety and stability for them to do as well as you want them to. You have to have the ability to see things through their eyes.

And that's just it. We're not egoic 20-year-olds. We're mid-thirty-somethings. We had a nice long time to get to know our adult selves a bit. We have now started to feel time passing and we know this is not forever. We want them to be better than we are, because they'll be here long after we're gone.

[-] schildfrosch@feddit.org 7 points 1 week ago

tl/dr: kids should learn from older kids. also school kind of sucky

sometimes i feel like before kids turn twenty, if you are more than four years older than them you basically can't understand them at all. so maybe kids should learn from older kids. except they get put in a world where only other kids exactly their age and adults who don't understand them at all exist. fuck school is what i'm trying to say. except i learned so many important things in school so fuck me i guess.

[-] MyVeryRealName@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago

Older kids don't talk to younger kids. I mean I still talk to three year olds and tell them they're going to be very successful, but I'm an exception.

[-] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

Study hall, recess and sports exist.

[-] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Adults as well.

Children should be taught how the world works. Dont lie to them about the nature of the world. If you dont like what we have to teach the children, maybe you shouldn't be having them.

[-] Hanrahan@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I have ni kids, i have no problems with kids, some parents on the other hand...

this post was submitted on 04 Nov 2026
786 points (93.0% liked)

Lemmy Shitpost

42889 readers
4243 users here now

Welcome to Lemmy Shitpost. Here you can shitpost to your hearts content.

Anything and everything goes. Memes, Jokes, Vents and Banter. Though we still have to comply with lemmy.world instance rules. So behave!


Rules:

1. Be Respectful


Refrain from using harmful language pertaining to a protected characteristic: e.g. race, gender, sexuality, disability or religion.

Refrain from being argumentative when responding or commenting to posts/replies. Personal attacks are not welcome here.

...


2. No Illegal Content


Content that violates the law. Any post/comment found to be in breach of common law will be removed and given to the authorities if required.

That means:

-No promoting violence/threats against any individuals

-No CSA content or Revenge Porn

-No sharing private/personal information (Doxxing)

...


3. No Spam


Posting the same post, no matter the intent is against the rules.

-If you have posted content, please refrain from re-posting said content within this community.

-Do not spam posts with intent to harass, annoy, bully, advertise, scam or harm this community.

-No posting Scams/Advertisements/Phishing Links/IP Grabbers

-No Bots, Bots will be banned from the community.

...


4. No Porn/ExplicitContent


-Do not post explicit content. Lemmy.World is not the instance for NSFW content.

-Do not post Gore or Shock Content.

...


5. No Enciting Harassment,Brigading, Doxxing or Witch Hunts


-Do not Brigade other Communities

-No calls to action against other communities/users within Lemmy or outside of Lemmy.

-No Witch Hunts against users/communities.

-No content that harasses members within or outside of the community.

...


6. NSFW should be behind NSFW tags.


-Content that is NSFW should be behind NSFW tags.

-Content that might be distressing should be kept behind NSFW tags.

...

If you see content that is a breach of the rules, please flag and report the comment and a moderator will take action where they can.


Also check out:

Partnered Communities:

1.Memes

2.Lemmy Review

3.Mildly Infuriating

4.Lemmy Be Wholesome

5.No Stupid Questions

6.You Should Know

7.Comedy Heaven

8.Credible Defense

9.Ten Forward

10.LinuxMemes (Linux themed memes)


Reach out to

All communities included on the sidebar are to be made in compliance with the instance rules. Striker

founded 3 years ago
MODERATORS