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I didn't say I was 15, just to not be ageist to 15 year olds
So, if we're done with the snarky comments and insults, answer me this. What benefit does it do either party for under 16s to have direct interactions with random adults in their 30s/40s+? Because that's most of the user base here. Not everyone is out to engage in good faith and many younger folks may not see dangerous situations ahead of time.
I don't see a situation where a random 15 year old and a random 40 year old need to interact here. The maturity levels, intersts, and life experiences are completely different between them, and I'm having a hard time seeing why a middle aged adult would want to have serious interactions with a literal child. Sure, they're a teen, but they aren't legally adults.
For one example, if they're trans and find info about diy HRT younger than they would have otherwise and are spared years of irreversible changes and dysphoria.
Or, you know, just that they're people who should have a voice and ears and not be barred from the wider societal conversation from everything about TV shows to national politics to educational policies, that they should have a voice in, and are indeed pubescent and more mature than actual children at thinking.
To engage with other people, practicising their online interaction skills, as they're not going to suddenly be magically more able to resist disinformation and stuff at 16 because of a few months of brain development, the more important thing is practice and being exposed to online content.
There are plenty of online resources regarding this information that don't require young people to interact directly with random older people who may or may not be acting in good faith. All of what you described, with the exception of online interaction, is available without placing children and teens in a place where they can be groomed or exploited by bad faith actors.
As for the other side, middle aged adults have no need to be directly interacting with teens and younger that they met online. There's no benefit for those individuals and too much room for exploitation to occur without moderation.
I don't see a situation where the benefits outweigh the risks for teens and children interacting with random adults online. I think we're going to have to agree to disagree here.
Because teenagers often exclude, harass, and verbally abuse others in the same age group for no real reason. If you're a teen who often ends up on the receiving end of that, then interacting with older people may be the only way you can have a normal conversation. Talking to adults is a last defense against missing a stage of social development and developing depression and social phobia.
That doesn't mean that you are personally required to talk to teens, but cutting them off from adult society completely is cruel.
And it is possible for a teen and an adult to share an interest—baseball, or sewing, or entomology, or whatever. Some people like talking to others who are enthusiastic about the same subject, even if that person is young and "still learning". Some adults even enjoy teaching.