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Probably because it comes across like unloading change you don't want to carry around rather than trying to help someone.
I mean I get it, it must be horrible having to beg, and I could imagine the humiliation is worse when you are offered a pittance I'm sure. But also, if that's all you have on you it's kind of all you can offer. It's a shitty situation, and there's no simple solution short of hunting the wealthy for sport and using their bones for soup.
It's a tricky one.
If I was begging I'd accept whatever was given. At the end of the day I can go to a store, use the self checkout that accepts coins, and buy what I need.
I once had a guy that gave me this long story asking for gas and I said sure what pump I'll add some. He then proceeded to follow me and immediately say that gas was covered and they wanted some road snacks (his words). All his friends were clearly working the whole station. The absolute anger that followed when I said no was insane. Take what you will from this anecdote, but I've learned 9 times out of 10 those that turn away small help don't often really need any help at all
We sadly have the same situation here in the larger cities in central europe, where organized groups of beggars from outside the country are working the streets. They also drive away the real beggars - so if you meet someone begging in a high-traffic area, chances are high that they are not who they seem to be. I do not give anything at those traffic hotspots (there are enough rubes out there who fall for this). If someone asks me for money for food on a lower frequency spot, i do occasionally offer to buy them some snack nearby (no shaming for someone wanting a beer, and a few cheap groceries are fine too). Hasn't been refused yet, outside of someone who was a bit more high than they appeared at first.
This reply made my day. Thank you for your empathetic response, it made up for reading the comment you responded to, and you responded to it far better than I did <3
What are you on about this is my same sentiment. I'll help people that need help not those with a crew trying to work an entire store's worth of people
shh
Yes yes don't want to break your completely fictitious interpretation of reality
crash out in progress
Yeah I'll continue to blame the wealthy for my problems, seems more practical than assuming the worst of strangers based on that one time some people tried to get you to buy them a sandwich.
But yeah, "fuck homeless people" is also an option, thanks 😂❤️
Wowie, that's not even close to what I said. Some people really are in their own worlds
You realize you are replying TO me yeah? its rude to talk about someone in the third person when they are in front of you.
Thanks for the heads up about "some people" sandwich guy, I'll be sure to keep my head on a swivel lol