we've been blocked by precisely one actual instance - the predominantly German-speaking feddit.de, for having open signups, which i'm sure is something we could hash out with them in the future. (technically there are also instances that block us which are run by single persons for their own use. in effect, this amounts to a single user blocking us for themselves, which obviously is fine).

we ourselves have defederated from precisely one instance - lemmygrad.ml, the political one for authoritarian communists. this was probably done to avoid unpleasant political spam posts from showing up. personally, i think we could get rid of even this one block as the users can decide whether to block that instance for themselves or not; i might post asking about it later.

and most importantly, the admins here have explicitly stated that the policy is to avoid defederation at all possible avenues. this statement more than anything really made me feel like i chose the right instance.

FMHY for the win!

[–] Taxxor@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

we’ve been blocked by precisely one actual instance - the predominantly German-speaking feddit.de

Which also was my first home instance until I noticed that a comment chain I accidentaly started using another lemmy instance was not visible when looking at the thread though feddit. Not even my own comments made with an instance that wasn't blocked. Turns out the user I answered to start that chain was a member of your instance and thus the comment and everything following it was not visible for feddit users.

Which is why I'm a full time lemm.ee user for now bc at the time it had 0 blocked instances and was blocked by 0 too^^

and most importantly, the admins here have explicitly stated that the policy is to avoid defederation at all possible avenues.

That's the policy of lemm.ee too. It has 34 blocked instances right now but those are all suspicious ones that formed and got >30K users within a couple hours and no activity at all.

But ultimately, new users shouldn't have to worry about such things, which is why I can't see Lemmy growing as a whole with the tools available now.
Everywhere it says it's not relevant where you sign up because you can see all the stuff from other instances anyway, but that's simply not true, it DOES matter where you sign up and even after that you could be forced to change your instance when the defederation roulette starts spinning again.

and most importantly, the admins here have explicitly stated that the policy is to avoid defederation at all possible avenues.

[–] tartarsauce@lemmy.fmhy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Which is why I’m a full time lemm.ee user for now bc at the time it had 0 blocked instances and was blocked by 0 too^^

aye, that's the real beauty of the fediverse; every person can find an instance which suits their preferences. those like us can find more hands-off instances if we want to, and equally people who prefer more moderation can easily find a more heavily moderated/curated instance.

But ultimately, new users shouldn’t have to worry about such things, which is why I can’t see Lemmy growing as a whole with the tools available now.

maybe an unpopular opinion, but i don't care so much about lemmy growing. it's great right now, having achieved a lot of growth recently bringing lots of interesting content and community, but still not being so big to the point where all the disadvantages of a reddit-sized userbase start to show.

hell, maybe it's better that lemmy never grows as big as the centralized sites, the people who prefer all the advantages of decentralized social media can move here, whereas those who prioritize convenience/ease of use can stay on the big sites. the annoyance of defederations is in some sense just a part of how the protocol works, and not something that can be "solved" per se; the people who are here choose to put up with it in exchange for all the advantages.

one thing that could be done though, is for the lemmy software to have an easy option for migrating all your account data like mastodon does. the poor lemmy devs (literally just 2 dudes) are up to their necks in water just keeping track of the flood in the issues and pull requests right now, so it's not likely lemmy will get new features soon, but hopefully people will step in to help them as well. if i was good enough at rust (or programming in general) i'd try to help too.

[–] Taxxor@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

maybe an unpopular opinion, but i don’t care so much about lemmy growing. it’s great right now, having achieved a lot of growth recently bringing lots of interesting content and community, but still not being so big to the point where all the disadvantages of a reddit-sized userbase start to show.

Yeah it doesn't have to get as big as reddit and I don't think it ever will, but at least right now I feel my "All" feed doesn't really change that much within 2-3 days so I'd like a couple more users on here^^

[–] tartarsauce@lemmy.fmhy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Dumb question, but have you tried changing from "Active" sort type (the default) to "New"? I had the same problem till I found that with lemmy's size at present, "New" is better at bringing you actually new posts from the past few hours rather than staying the same for days. Though maybe that only works for me because of the number of communities I'm subscribed to. Which is another thing that might help; discovery is a little difficult right now so best to use an external site like https://lemmyverse.net/ to find communities that interest you.

[–] Taxxor@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I mostly used "Top day" recently, "New" isn't really good with "All", more with "Subscribed".
Browsing lemmyverse.net is useful when I actively want to search for a specific community.
With the current size of Lemmy, I mostly use "All" because I might find interesting stuff from comunities that I didn't think of before.

[–] tartarsauce@lemmy.fmhy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Fair enough, some more growth would do good