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Worth noting that Nectar is strongly disliked by mattress enthusiasts. I needed an emergency mattress and bought one because it was extremely cheap, but found it so uncomfortable that I ended up browsing r/mattress for explanations. They are said to be inconsistent, low quality, and falsely advertised the country of origin. They also heavily astroturfed r/mattress with fake accounts, which I find to be less than ethical. The return policy is excellent though.
Not saying yours is bad, or that you’re wrong for liking it, just that it’s controversial and I personally did not like it. I’m glad it worked for you!
Oh, no problem, and thanks for the heads-up! And here's where I say: I'm weirdly not surprised to hear that.
Backstory:I managed to sprain/strain/something my back horribly right when covid hit and couldn't get in for physical therapy for almost six months, so it was slow to heal and I semi-re-whtaever'ed it two more times (once: opening a box. A box) and the low-grade pain constant pain and inability to bend or do certain movements without an upgrade lasted about two-ish years. My mom's amazing mattress: nope. Pillow-top mattress:? Nope. My mattress was a hellscape but again, Amazon sale.
When I got the Nectar, I really wasn't feeling it; it's this weird combination of not-hard and not-soft for a bed (I kept thinking it would make a really good slouchy couch). My son didn't' mind it, but my mom carefully did not say she thought I should consider a refund. I thought: eh, I'll keep it at least the month trial period as I know nothing about mattresses and I know even less about returning them.
My back? LOVES IT. A month sleeping in it, my back only acts up when I actually do things that are not back-friendly. The only thing I know this thing has changed about how I sleep is this mattress super discourages movement once unconsciousness commences; like, it cannot be done, and God help you if you take a sleeping pill before setting your sleeping plans in place. If go to sleep on my left side, right side, back, with my legs crossed or in a pretzel configuration, nothing's going anywhere until I'm fully awake again so I better make sure the position I fall asleep in is one that I won't regret spending eightish hours in (or hope I need to go to the bathroom at some point and wake up to fix things). So yes, you better believe my body position before sleep habits got an overhaul very very fast and I haven't lapsed in a very long time.
Wait, did I mention what caused that first dramatic agonizing strain? Pain that was so bad an ambulance had to be called--during covid--but they advised against the ER because COVID even though I could not stand straight for three days? I had to go stay with my mom to take care of me because movement = screaming until we could get to my doctor on the phone to send muscle relaxants and anti-inflammatories I had to take for months before this mattress came into my life?
One morning, I was sitting cross-legged on the couch like every other day of my life and then I stood up. That's how this started.
I feel like I should defend my mattress's honor or something but--I mean, this is pretty consistent in the pattern of my life to date. Standing up broke my back; a overpriced crappy mattress healed it and then trained me into better sleep posture. Truly, life is a rich tapestry indeed.
Y’know, that makes sense actually. Reminds me of my chairs (Aerons) which, unlike some chairs, promote zero movement and require you to sit in the “proper” position. Like your case, this works best for me because otherwise I am prone to hurting myself by sitting like a shrimp.
It didn’t work for me in mattress form (though for me, it was uncomfortable enough that I moved more), and I ended up being one of the people who got pain from it, but that’s the case with chairs too. Bodies are so damn weird and there truly is no fit-all solution.
That’s actually the other reason I said it’s not that you have bad mattress taste or anything— mattresses are so personal, thanks to bodies being so variable, that trying and returning is the way to go. Mattress companies know everyone is different so they deliberately offer 365 day return periods. In the old mattress sub people were buying mattresses, testing them, then returning them if it didn’t work (the office chair subreddit did this too). It’s actively encouraged by the companies and doesn’t hurt much because mattress margins are huge to begin with.