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I mean, I get it, it’s a nice thing to do. People who do it care about others. But the flip side of that isn’t “these people don’t care about others.” It’s just that it’s not expected after a while. See what I’m saying?
You’re right, it’s a nice thing to do. But it’s not really something we can get up in arms over after a certain point.
Wow, yeah. That really is just unhinged. How dare they have said something like that? 🙄
Um…did you read what I said?
Yes, I did. You're very committed to painting a basic, mild request as something pointless and unreasonable to ask of others, which is so backwards it's absurd. Thinking for 2 seconds about how what you say can affect those around you isn't some big ask. It shouldn't even have to be asked. It should be bog standard for anyone interacting in society.
lol you’re _sure_you read what I said?
Because I advocated for doing it. Multiple times. But I also said it’s reasonable to not expect it after a certain point.
Let me word it slightly differently, see if you can wrap your head around my position on it this way: “It’s a good thing to do for others. I’m all for it. But not everyone thinks of others that way. And it’s not helpful getting up in arms because while, yes, it’s a nice, considerate thing to do for people, people on the whole aren’t nice and considerate. Getting upset about it won’t change that.”
We shouldn’t have to ask people to grow their garbage in the can, or to say “please” and “thank you.” Or to not drive dangerously, to not disrespect other people’s property. If you spend all of your time bemoaning the fact that these things don’t happen, you’ll drive yourself crazy. Assume everyone is inconsiderate, and be pleasantly surprised when people are. Not upset when they aren’t. You’ll be much happier.
Please elaborate on how that is being "up in arms". That's literally all they said before users like you came in to frame the very act of asking as "unreasonable". Then you started getting upset replies like mine, because that's some backwards bs. If you're so invested in people being happier, maybe don't advocate so heavily for complacency and callousness. The world already has enough of that crap.
I’m not advocating. Do you know what “advocating” means? Because it’s very much the opposite of what I did. You gone, friend.