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How many times a day do you meet the love of your life? (lemy.lol)

submitted 9 months ago by throwaway077295@lemy.lol to c/askmen@lemmy.world

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I have this thing where I see a random person on the street, in the store, or in the park and it makes me picture what it would be like to be together with this person, to build a house together, have pets together, live a life together. I try not to stare as I walk past and go about my day.

For minutes to hours I have this gut-punch feeling that the love of my life just walked out of the door and I'll never see them again. Soon after, when the stranger is all but forgotten I'll run into the next stranger and the cycle repeats.

Somehow I believe this is a mundane and typical thing that occurs to men, maybe to non-binary people and women too? However, I've never spoken to anyone about this in real life. So I'd like to hear your thoughts. Does this happen to you?

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[–] L0rdMathias@sh.itjust.works 2 points 9 months ago

I have indulged in these fantasies many times - it's not unusual to think about hypothetical futures and it's especially not uncommon to come up with stories about those hypothetical futures. It's even more common for you to be the main character of these hypotheticals. It's never been compulsory, I often have to stop my mind from wandering and these thoughts are no different from any others. Fantasies like these are essentially nothing more than a fanfiction of the real world.

What's more important is how you analyze these thoughts and what you feel about having them. If they are actually concerning to you and you are worried about controlling these types of fantasies, go to your doctor and get some referrals for therapy or counseling - many scams exist that specifically target men for especially this type of psych stuff, so try to stick to professional channels whenever possible.