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[–] DillyDaily@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Yeah, as a kinky asexual myself, it seems like she hasn't been very open in communicating her relationship to kink. Especially when your partner is allosexual, it's so important to explain why you like to participate in kinky activities as an asexual and where your boundaries begin and end.

For allosexual people, sex and kinks have a venn diagram that's basically a circle, and failing to communicate the extent of your interest in kinks as an asexual is just setting the entire relationship up to fail because you're inevitably going to have mismatching expectations from kink play unless you make sure you're both on the same page before you start.

His confusion is completely understandable, as is her identity as a kinky asexual. They just need to talk to each other.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Honestly not even. I’m in a power exchange relationship and yes I find my mistress attractive, but our dynamic is to a scene what marriage is to sex. Yes there’s an implication we do it and all four are connected to us, but also I’m not getting off on being told to get her coffee when I want to stay in bed.

[–] SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Wait, so you are the lezbian, but you aren't the captain!?

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago

She’s my admiral