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The number of examples I have seen of people being told to shut up about their lived experiences with sexual abuse in the past 24 hours on this platform is deeply disturbing.

I am calling on y’all to take a deep breath and listen to women for once. There is a time and place for tone policing and it’s never the very minute a woman speaks up.

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[–] Korne127@lemmy.world 44 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I’m really glad I haven’t seen any posts like that here on Lemmy but that sounds really awful. :/

And I completely agree with your thought and intention but I still have to nitpick about:

There is a time and place for tone policing and it’s _never_ the very minute a woman speaks up.

Of course it’s not never. Just like with men, women are not infallible and can do shit.
I know you’re (hopefully) not literally meaning it like that, but I thought it’s still noteworthy.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 33 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

thanks for your kind words! and you are correct; i am using strong language there that should not be applied literally, though i do stand by the sentiment.

to be more precise, “There is a time and place for tone policing and incredible care should be taken that it is not done to silence or speak over any person’s expression of lived experience, so as not to discourage people who have found the courage to speak up.”