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[–] FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io 24 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

So femboys are not trans, yes? I accidentally called a femboy dude and felt bad about it, but then I was like, "wait, no, they're just a boy who likes girly stuff, it's OK to call them dude, right?"

I'd ask them but don't want to be rude(r).

[–] th3f4ult@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Well MOST femboys don't identify as trans women, some of them do, not to be confused with transmasc femboys, They also exist.

[–] FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io 11 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Guess I'll have to ask and apologize if I misgendered them. Thanks!

[–] Num10ck@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago (1 children)

'Dude' as a term is losing its gender anyway.

[–] FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io 4 points 5 months ago

I'm all for it.

"You guys" too.

[–] zaph@sh.itjust.works 13 points 5 months ago (2 children)
[–] FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io 9 points 5 months ago

Some people think so, but I'm all for it being used to refer to anyone.

[–] julianh@lemm.ee 3 points 5 months ago

Depends on the person. I tend to use "guys" and "dudes" as gender neutral and nobody's ever corrected me, but it doesn't hurt to ask.